The Mailbox

We get lots of mail here at CUFS Central.....some of it is really cool, some sincere...some....well, just plain weird! 
We thought we'd share some of the emails with you!  

Most authors will remain anonymous (unless otherwise specified).

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FYI - Intimate letters and letters asking for advice will NEVER be posted! 
We respect our members privacy in such matters.

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Letters about CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth

            The CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth Organization
            Our Munch and Newsletter
            The CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth Website
            Compliments on Classes
            Our Outreach Work

Requests, Requests, Requests!

Comments about Ren's Writing:

            Primer for Male Submissives
            All 'Men' Are Created Equally (Or….Why I Don't Believe in Female Superiority)
            Ren's 'Crocodile Hunter' Infatuation
            Military Men and the Domme Who Loves Them
            Traveling With Toys

Questions About BDSM, Kink, and Everything Related

Weird and Wacky Correspondence

Special Letters

 



Letters About CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth

The CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth Organization       

~~ A Letter of Thanks   :) ~~

Subj: Re: August Munch
Date: 8/27/01 12:39:59 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From:******@*****.****
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

You two are to be commended for maintaining CUFSmaine and allowing those of us who wish or need to remain in the closet to do so and yet connect with the community of similar interests.

*****


~~ From Russia, with questions..... ~~

Subj: BDSM club in Russia
Date: 8/6/02 2:23:08 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ******@rambler.ru
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

Dear Sir or Madam,

My name is ********, I?m writing to you as a member of BDSM community in St. Petersburg, Russia.

Your internet resource is now well-known among Russian people interested in BD/DS/SM relations. We have several our own local sites which in fact helped us to find one another. But now we feel this is not enough and I?ve decided to ask your advice.

We?d like to form a kind of organization with a legal status (if it is possible), something more than just our internet-bound community, so that we could help people to find and meet partners and friends, spend time together in interesting events, and so on. We?d like to have possibility to advertise our club, events, master-classes, to have conferences and meetings as you do.

Legality is our main problem now. There has never been a BDSM-organization in Russia like yours, though there are lots of widely known gay or swinger communities which advertise their clubs in papers. Specific features of BDSM life don?t allow us to follow their steps in creating our club. We fear that our club-to-be may be juridically accused of propaganda of violence and so on. As I see it, this is a problem of how to represent the club in order to avoid this danger.

Could you tell us how BDSM communities in your country solve this problem? What juridical form and basis do they have? How did you get through the process of registration if you had one?

We would be grateful if you could give us a piece of advice on how to run a bdsm club, and we would be happy some day in future to welcome you as our guests here, in St. Petersburg.

Sincerely yours,
******** ********

 

Our Munch and Newsletter

~~ More Kind words   :) ~~

Subj: Re: The 'CUF Link' # 64 - October 2002
Date: 10/20/02 6:54:57 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: **********
To: CUFSmaine

.....I also would like to take a moment to personally thank you for keeping me informed of all the different things that are happening in the New England area. You have a fantastic newsletter!
Keep up the great work!
Thanks,
**********


~~ Thanks For All You Do ~~

Subj: Re: The 'CUF Link' #97 - July 2005
Date: 8/4/2005 7:31:30 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *******@maine.rr.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Ren,

Just wanted to tell you and Joe that this is an amazing newsletter. I take so much for granted and I wanted to make sure I said thank you so much for all you do for the community.

** ****

 

The CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth Website

~~ Kind Words ~~

Subj: your website
Date: 12/2/01 11:51:15 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********@***********
To: cufsmaine@aol.com

Hi:
Submissive Sadie from VT recommended I visit your website to check out an article on Etiquette. Very informative as is your entire site. As a "newbie", I'm searching for answers to a ton of questions and your site was very helpful. I'm trying to limit my research to VT, NH, and ME just because I feel like I'll get a better "flavor" hearing it from people who live in my neck of the woods. Thanks and keep up the good work!

*****


~~ Julia Child - Watch out (but keep the fire extinguisher handy)!!   :P ~~

Subj: 
Date: 10/11/02 10:27:33 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: *************
To: CUFSmaine

Over the last weekend I was looking at the CUFS website and must say how very impressed I was with the quality and quantity of information there. The amount of time and love that you, your husband, and others have put into it is obvious. I learned much, and laughed a lot to! "Sex in a Bowl" was great!.... If you ever need help in the kitchen Ren.<G> Hey.... How about your own cooking show :-o 

*************


~~ Compliments and a Comment ~~

Subj: Quick comment
Date: 1/31/03 2:54:31 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *******@magma.ca
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Mistress Ren (et al?),

First, let me thank you for an absolutely wonderful web site. I only had the chance to go through some of it, but I particularly enjoyed the links under "BDSM basics". As someone who's more into the DS aspects than Bondage or SM, I find that I don't always have the information at-hand that I would like. (Even though my partner seems to be an unmitigated wealth of information, he's not always around at the moment I need the info!)

Do you have any restrictions in terms of who I can send your links to? I'm only thinking of a couple of friends who might be interested, but in the event that I decide to post it to a list, I thought I should check with you first.

In regards to your Top 10 Myths page (http://www.cufsmaine.org/topten.htm), I'd just like to point out that in point #1, not EVERYBODY who practices BDSM attends classes to learn the safe use of certain equipment. Often, people will book-learn, or be taught by a mentor, or even (as in my case) their partner. I think it's definitely a good point to make that almost everybody in the scene is taught somehow by someone, though unfortunately, there are always those out there who have little to no "proper" education about the subject.

Once again, good job!

Sincerely,
Master ***


~~ Website Compliments ~~

Subj: a 'site' for sore eyes *s*
Date: 6/30/03 8:55:07 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ***********@mastersandsubmissives.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Hello to You both~

I was browsing around the 'net today, and wonder of wonders, where did I land but upon your wonderful site. I had a bit of free time so I started reading, and with each page my smile grew and my pulse gave a lil 'hurry-up'...lol.

What can I say but WOW. Visiting a pretty vast array of sites, I see the same thing over and over. The same articles, the same parroted information, no passion, no originality and very little honesty. I was so happy with all I was seeing at your site, I just had to contact you. You've created a wonderful resource! What a lucky place Maine is *s*

I'm just so very impressed with the writing, the design and the superior content of your site, I want very much to rush to my links page and add CUFS Maine to it. So that brings us around to my query...... do you have a banner that I might copy to use as a link? or a text link? or... something altogether different? I simply MUST direct the viewers of my site to yours, I just have to. *s*

Again, I just have to express my pleasure in visiting your site, I intend to return and devour every little bit I can find *S* Thank you for making such a spot on the internet.. for even those of us who are no where near Maine to share in. :)

Love in the lifestyle~
***********
http://www.mastersandsubmissives.com


~~ My Thanks ~~

Subj: Very nice website
Date: 12/1/2003 12:21:05 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ***********@cs.com
To: CUFSmaine

Thank you for a very nice website. I have been curious for a while now and have been looking for a place to go to meet other people. I got your website address off of another website. It is better than the now defunct www.centralmainealliance.org . I look forward to the opportunity to attend one of what I hope will be many munches and meeting potential dom/mes.

Thanks again,
*****

 

Compliments on Classes

~~ A Letter of Thanks  :) ~~

Subj: About the bondage 101 class
Date: 1/31/2004 8:56:30 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ***********@yahoo.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Hi there,

I am am one of your new folks from the munch and I was REALLY bummed I am going to miss the next class on Feb 29th. I am [going out of state] on the 28th so sadly will miss the munch as well. I was wondering if there may be a chance you might be holding that same "bondage 101" class again later in the year as well, it is a class that is one a new folk wouldn't want to miss out on... Is there the chance possibility of a repeat class later?

Also a very special Thank You again to you both for holding the [Erotic Choking] class for only two of us, it says alot about how wonderfully dedicated you are!  Much appreciated and a gracious Thank You!  I am looking into taking Judo here in my area. I was so impressed with you both, you made it look easy and I can use all the self defense and tactics work in my job!

Thank You,
********

 

Our Outreach Work

NOTE:  Nothing we have done caused as much controversy in the community as our being 'removed' from a New Hampshire BDSM group by their board after we announced that we- at the request of NH BDSMers and alternative lifestylers - were going to start outreach work in New Hampshire . 

This group was under the mistaken impression that we were going to 'out' group leaders and members during our work.  No amount of discussion on our part could convince them otherwise, and our insistence of continuing with our work caused us to be 'shunned' by this group.

The following are some of the letters of support we received:
 

~~ Support ~~

Subj: Re: Leaving the ***** Group
Date: 11/12/2003 10:00:26 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ***************@hotmail.com
To: MstressRen@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Hello Ren -Being a bit "out of the loop" on news, this was the first I had heard of this. Just wanted to wish you and lafayette the best of luck in setting up an outreach program in NH. I know that CUFS has been an invaluable organization here in Maine. I was personally grateful to have you here when I myself was abused by a so-called "Dom" when first entering the lifestyle and had someone with the appropriate education and information to turn to. Thanks again for that shoulder :-) I know that through your outreach (along with other participating locals) we have been able to maintain a good relationship with the local police departments and continue with public play nights at the Underground, even with the opposition of some religious organizations. It saddens me that you are being turned away, but I know that you are a strong woman and will do what needs to be done in the best interest of BDSM.

Take care, *********
 

~~ Support ~~

Subj: Re: Leaving the ***** Group
Date: 11/12/2003 3:18:28 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: *******@yahoo.com
To: MstressRen@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Hi Renee,

Due to huge changes in my life the past few months (i am on extended stay in ***** with my new grandson), i have not kept up with the posts on *****, so i was not aware of any problems. i just want to let you know that i am in agreement with you and please feel free to post from my group ******. . i have educated professional people about the lifestyle with positive results and acceptance and believe it is important to educate those who are not in the lifestyle. What you are doing is important work and you have my support.

***** - *******


~~ Support ~~

Date: Thu, 13 Nov 2003 09:51:55 -0800 (PST)
From: *************@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: shunning

Education about BDSM or Ds relationships does not have to OUT anyone but the people who choose to do the presenting.

No groups names have to be mentioned although it certainly helps back up ideas when more people come forward. I've seen the great work that has taken place in Maine and the freedom they have there to maintain life and relationships as well have more public activities. some people enjoy attending places like Manray in Massachusetts or the Underground in Maine, and the only reason they are able to do so is because of public outreach
I applaud Mistress Ren and joe for the efforts they are making in the communities behalf

****** ******

~~ Support ~~

Date: Thu, 13 Nov 2003 16:33:12 -0500
From: *****@suscom-maine.net
Subject: Re: shunning

I also applaud Mistress Ren and joe for the efforts they are making on the
communities behalf.

******* ****

 



Requests, Requests, Requests

~~ Parlez-Vous Finnish?? ~~

Subj: Inquiry for translations...
Date: 10/28/00 12:20:01 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ************************
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

Dear Ren and LesVoiles

I go impolitely straight to the business.

I´m going to start BDSM discussion and support group here in North- Finland hopely during next month. I have been looking for sources to get some ideas about important basic things like BDSM etiquette and safety. My first idea was write texts to our members by my self, but now I have found these web pages of Yours and You have been written articles just like I have been thinking these things. There´s no point for me to try to say these things in another words.

So.I´m asking kindly Your permission for me to translate in Finnish Your essays about Etiquette (www.cufsmaine.org/etiquett.htm)  and if not all safety parts at least Online Safety (www.cufsmaine.org/safeonln.htm)  I´ll include all source informations and the web address where originally text can be found in translations. I´d like to print one copy about these texts so it can be found in our office for members to read and I would also like to sent translations into our Only Members email group if possible. But if I get Your permission I´ll of couse do as Your wish is.

I assure that I understand English much, much better than I write. So You can be sure that You won´t find any mistakes from my translations like You can now from this e- mail.

And I´d like to thank You for updating Your web- pages.

I hope to hear from You soon,

**************

 

~~ Ms. Manners eat your heart out! ~~

Subj: 
Date: 6/3/01 9:46:47 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ***@****.***
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

i enjoyed Your site..i ask most respectfully that i be allowed to paste Your etiquette page at my Master's and my site. i found it to be quite informative and pleasant.
Please reply, Sir.
*******
 

~~ I love request like this! ~~

Subj: Article request
Date: 2/9/03 10:41:00 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *********@hotmail.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Dear Ren,

I am writing to request permission to distribute copies of four articles from the CUFSMaine website. The articles (listed below) will be available as handouts to interested local health care practitioners attending a presentation on alternative sexuality. Full credit will be given to you as the author and the CUFS website, and the statement “Reproduced with permission” will be added to the bottom of each article. I would appreciate hearing from you soon, as the information session takes place this week.
The articles are:

"I'm Afraid to Go to the Emergency Room": Maine Hospital Procedures for Alternative Lifestylers in Need of Emergency Medical Care and Information for Hospital Personnel Regarding Alternative Lifestyle Patients and Their Injuries. A Collaborative Effort of CUFSMaine and Your Area Hospital http://www.cufsmaine.org/imafraid.htm

The Top Ten Myths About BDSM and the People Who Practice It
http://www.cufsmaine.org/topten.htm

BDSM vs. Abuse
http://www.cufsmaine.org/bdsmvsab.htm

Safety Equipment and Suggestions
http://www.cufsmaine.org/safequip.htm

Thank you very much for your attention to this matter, and I will look forward to your reply.

Sincerely,

**** *
Sex Educator

 

~~ Reposting Request ~~

Subj:  Permission to Repost?
Date:  6/24/03 12:55:07 AM Eastern Daylight Time
From:  ******************@hotmail.com
To:  CUFSmaine@aol.com

Hello,

I am looking to gain permission to repost the wonderfully complete "First Meeting Safety" page <http://www.cufsmaine.org/safemeet.htm>  on our website <http://therisingphoenix.tripod.com> .

Basically, your page is the best I have seen and I would rather not re-invent the wheel in this regard.

Thank you for your consideration.

*******
(The Order of the Rising Phoenix)



~~ From one of my fellow NLAI-DV Regional Coordinators ~~

Subj: [NLAIDVcoordinators] Ren!!!
Date: 2/28/2004 3:02:03 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: *********@yahoo.com
Reply-to: NLAIDVcoordinators
To: NLAIDVcoordinators
Sent from the Internet (Details)


Would you mind if I use your differences between bdsm and abuse file that is posted from CUFSmaine?  I am doing a talk in Fort Smith, Arkansas on March 16th and another in Stillwater, OK. on March 31st. The sheet is wonderful information for a handout and I would love to do so if it is agreeable.

Thanks,

******
 

~~ Going Academic ~~

Subj: list bdsm vs. abuse
Date: 3/29/2004 6:08:00 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ******@minoan.gr
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

hello, my name is ********, and I live in Athens, Greece (city of the Olympics 2004), and I am doing a paper for my Psychology M.Sc. titled Pain, how an aversive stimulus converts into a sexual aphrodisiac.

While searching for various sources, I found very interestingly placed, your list depicting the differences between bdsm and abuse. Could I please by providing the link of your site, copy the entire list as it is?

Please reply to me as soon as possible because i need to finish my paper this coming Wednesday!

Thanks a lot!

********


~~ Another Article Request ~~

Subj: First Scene Safety
Date: 10/20/2005 11:51:18 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ********_*****@cox.net
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Hi!

I am putting together a section on my website on safety.

I came across your article "First Scene Safety". I was wondering, with your permission, if I may use this article? I feel it would be great benefit to my readers.

Many thanks in advance.

Sincerely,

******



Comments About Ren's Writing:

A Primer For Male Submissives


~~ Doing My Duty as a Domme  :) ~~

Subj: Brava!!!
Date: 3/12/2004 3:17:14 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: **********
To: CUFSmaine

Mistress Ren,

In my ever constant search for information to give newbie male submissives I stumbled across your page [A Primer For Male Submissives: What Female Dominants are REALLY Looking For].  Brava dear lady, Brava!!
As I read it, I felt as if I had written every word, it follows my thinking exactly and I couldn't agree more with what you said on every point. I am going to make this one of the things that I send to all male submissives, potentials or not. Thank you so very much for your well written, and obviously well thought out writings. You do our community a service by presenting your thoughts.

Sincerely,

** *******


~~ The Perfect D/s Dinner Conversation... ~~

Subj: Feedback on your article
Date: 5/2/2004 11:53:24 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ******@comcast.net
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Hi,

I was recently looking for some "talking points" for a date I had coming up. As a male submissive who hasn't been "out there" much, I've worried that I wasn't really "sub enough" to enter a relationship with a Domme. The media stuff I've seen has pretty much reinforced that notion. It all looked pretty extreme in comparison to what I had mind.

Your article at http://www.cufsmaine.org/subprimer.htm  was a refreshing, realistic look at what a "normal" D/s relationship revolves around. Except for the particular ways they're expressed, it's just about the same as it always is: trust, loyalty, dependability, patience, caring, etc. It calmed a lot of fears I've had. It also reminded of something I know but often forget; that media never reflects life without distorting it.

Maybe I'll even find a way to work your article into some dinner conversation... :)

Thanks again,

*** *
 

~~ Learning Tool ~~

Subj: A Primer For Male Submissives
Date: 8/26/2005 8:16:56 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ****************540@yahoo.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Greetings Mistress Ren :)

I am a 23yr old male who is new to the BDSM scene and i came across your article on a website and i have to say it has been an invaluable read! i have only now fully understood who i am and what my precious Mistress truely wants from me. Since reading your paper, i have become good friends with my Mistress and we have been having a great time hehe. Having said i have only been made her pet for nearly a week but i am feeling more and more comfortable and knowledgable as i keep referring to your article:)

your humble stranger

**** :)


 

All 'Men' Are Created Equally (Or….Why I Don't Believe in Female Superiority)
 

~~ Rumors, Rumors ~~

Subj: Re: The 'CUF Link' #81 - March 2004
Date: 3/26/2004 3:53:26 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********@ix.netcom.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Dear Ren,

I enjoyed your little rant: All 'Men' Are Created Equally (Or….Why I Don't Believe in Female Superiority)

Its possible that the rumor I heard about you might well be true. Something to the effect that you might be one of those few women who actually does have a clue!

My compliments. LOL

***** ***

 

~~ a submissive man speaks out! ~~

Subj: JUst a quicky for Mistress Ren's article...............
Date: 3/31/2004 9:35:38 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ***********@hotmail.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

From a submissive male to an obviously intelligent and worldly dom. I have to say that your article is great and so true.

I am luck enough to be part of a 50/50 S&M relationship and believe that the relationship is exactly as you say a partnership of give and take in equal amounts! Including respect and love, caring and empathy.

If you do not have a strong relationship in REAL terms then the S&M relationship is not REAL! To truly feel satisfying you as a dom need to know that the submission is out of choice and love. That this man in front of you is giving himself to you out of total love and commitment......unconditionally to give to you as much as you are to him.

The feeling of total dominance is strenghtened by the fact that out of role play and S&M sex sessions the male can be dominant. This shows the dom female that he would be submissive for his mistress to please her and this makes his enjoyment greater as he knows he is pleasing his mistress and vise versa.

Well just some thoughts back to work,

****
 

~~ Food for Thought...~~

Subj: just some thoughts on Mistress ren's article
Date: 8/30/2005 12:36:59 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ************
To: CUFSmaine

Mistress Ren

i just read Your article where You wrote that You do not believe in "Female Superiority" . . that You do not feel that You are superior to men.

but Your writing with such great insight proves the opposite is in fact true . . You ARE Superior . . . and males are inferior . . . and males Do need female domination and training in order to become, "all that they can be' . . or rather, "all that they should be".

i believe that all of the violence and hate . . and all of the 'wars' in the world could be and would be ameliorated and even eliminated, if Women ruled. they are strong, strict, stringent . . .but always intelligently compassionate and merciful and caring . . .yes, the world would be a far better place if Women held the reins of power and authority.

thank You for writing . . . and reading this,
******* * ******
pennsylvania usa


 

Ren's 'Crocodile Hunter' Infatuation......

~~ Regarding Ren's 'Crocodile Hunter' Infatuation...... ~~

Subj: That's my Uncle!
Date: 3/21/01 2:23:09 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********************
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

<< LOL
I really enjoyed reading your last newsletter about Mr.Irwin!  I was kind of taken back by it, because he is my uncle.  It was bizarre, reading an article about him, my air-headed uncle.  Anyhow, we enjoyed many laughs together when I read it to him over the phone.  Who knows, maybe he will show up at your next meeting. >>

For those of you who missed that piece from our Newsletter, here it is:

I have a confession to make ..... I am totally infatuated with a celebrity. 

Not surprising, since most people have interest in somebody they will probably never meet or have the chance to get involved with. 

While most women my age go ga-ga over Harrison Ford, Paul Newman, or Tom Cruise - each a talented and studly specimen - I lust over Steve Irwin .......

.... Yes ....... the Crocodile Hunter.

How do I describe my infatuation with the Croc Hunter? It is actually twofold. First of all, he is damn cute! Blonde hair that always has a sexy mussed up quality .... that cute devil-may-care smile, sparkling eyes, boyish exhuberance ..... and that khaki shirt and shorts! Oh!! My uniform fetish goes into overdrive!

Every day, when I switch on Animal Planet and catch his show, I think about the possibilities of playing with Steve Irwin. How can you not want to scene with a man who is fearless, can wind duct tape so expertly, and can tie such snug knots?? Every time he makes a point by slamming his hands together and exclaiming 'Wham!" I feel a sudden desire to rediscover being a submissive. :) 

Ohhhhh .... and that accent! How could anyone resist?? Imagine him circling a submissive, a snakebite kit in hand, gleefully saying. " 'Ave a look at these l'ttle nippers, would ya!"

I get goosebumps just thinking about it! :)

But .... then my Domme side takes over .... and there, too, the possibilities are endless! Steve Irwin strapped to the hood of his land rover awaiting my pleasures. Steve Irwin crawling on his hands and knees (Mmmmmmm) .... and Steve Irwin ..... in over head suspension, eyes wide, wondering where I will strike next .....

Can't you just hear him saying, 'Oh, CRIKEY!!"

Mistress Ren - lusting over Aussies in Khakis :)

 


Military Men and the Domme Who Loves Them

~ So many Serviceman...... ~~

Subj: Website
Date: 6/25/2005 5:06:55 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *********
To: CUFSmaine

I just read the article from Mistress Ren. As a service man (Navy) and a submissive, I am happy to see that. To bad I don't know anyone else in the life style here (Kentucky). Oh well.

ASAN ******* *******

 

Traveling With Toys

~~ Correcting a Misconception ~~

Subj: Toys site
Date: 7/11/2004 1:43:44 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********@bigfoot.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)

Your "traveling with toys" site is well done, but I would like to correct one misconception. Refusing to consent to a search of your car will NOT place you "under suspicion." You have a Fourth Amendment right to refuse warrantless searches. Many people waive that right by consenting to a search, but exercising the right is perfectly legal, and absolutely cannot be held against you by a police officer, nor is it grounds for arrest. If  the police officer has specific reason to suspect you of a crime - you're driving erratically or you've already tried to evade arrest - then yes, but during a routine traffic stop, you have a Constitutional right to respectfully decline a search without suffering any consequences.
 

 



Questions About BDSM, Kink, and Everything Related

~~ Hmmmm......Just how DOES that go......? ~~

Subj: hankie codes
Date: 7/4/02
From: *************@yahoo.com.au
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

Greetings,

I was wondering- in your article on hankie codes it says that people in the US use Left/right for top/bottom and that people in the UK do it opposite. I live in Australia, thus I was wondering which way it would be done here.  Any help on this subject would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance,
***** 

The Questions Stumps Us........

Good question, *****! I'm sorry, but I am afraid I do not know the answer.

I would suggest getting in touch with one of the Australian Gay/lesbian BDSM support groups, or even a local gay bar...I'm sure that somebody there would be able to answer the question for you.

Wishing you the best, 

Mistress Ren

And then...one day....when the suspense was killing us.....the Answer!!!

Subj: Re: Re- hankie codes
Date: 7/28/02 11:28:00 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: *************@yahoo.com.au 

Greetings,

Just as a matter of interest, I found that Australians follow the American code.

*****

Now...if I ever go 'down under' I will flash correctly!
 



Weird and Wacky Correspondence

~~ We Always Wondered About Him...... ~~

Subj: StephenKing
Date: 3/19/01 10:52:59 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *******************
To: CUFSMaine@aol.com

Hi, I hope all is well with you guys up North.  I just wanted to give you a late breaking story related to Maine, Bangor to be specific.  If you happen to get the Spring Issue, #35, of Skin Two with a paramilitary looking woman on the cover (Danger Women theme) please look at Page 18 where you will find my photo and story (translated into Brit-speak) of Stephen King and Amy Tan.  The authors plus other authors and pro musicians are part of a band, The Rock Bottom Remainders, who only perform for charity.  One of the things Amy Tan does is dress up like a Dominatrix, sing "These Boots Were Made For Walking", and then pretends to flog the backsides of band members including Mr. King hence my photo and where it appears.  I have had another pic in Skin Two and hope to have many more.

Please keep me up to date with your events,

Best to you,

********************

 

~~ Calgon!  Take Me Away!! ~~

Subj: Use of Telephone in Bathtub
Date: 3/26/01 3:13:07 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********************
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

Dear Sir/Madam, 

Hopefully you can answer a safety question for me. My wife has a habit of taking the cordless telephone with her into a bath. Is this dangerous? Could she be electrocuted if the phone fell into the water?

******************

Our Reply.....

Hi *******,

According to LesVoiles, our resident gadget wiz, it's not overtly dangerous. A mild shock from the phone battery is possible, but electrocution is not.....unless she takes the plug-in base unit with her. :)

Sincerely,

Ren and LesVoiles

And the Final Response....

Subj: Re: Use of Telephone in Bathtub
Date: 3/26/01 8:05:26 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: **********@yahoo.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

Thanks so much for your timely reply.  I am very relieved.

 

Maine, New England and Bali???

Subj: Swinging
Date: 4/16/01 6:06:15 AM Eastern Daylight Time
From: unknownsender@unknown.domain
Reply-to: ****************
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com

Hello,

My name is ****** and I noticed you are into swinging. I live in Bali Indonesia and wondered if you had any plans to come to Bali. My wife is Indonesian and very beautiful. We like to participate in swinging activities and hope you do too. Can you send me some information and possibly a photo of you. Please look at our ad with a picture at http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/baliswingersclub

Thank you,

***** & ******

 



Special Letters

~~ A Treasured Letter  from a BDSM Icon :) ~~

Subj: To Les Voiles 
Date: 4/9/03 5:17:17 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: *************
To: CUFSmaine

Hi
My name is Viola Johnson. Your review of "To Love To Obey To Serve" was just sent to me by a member of my leather family. I wanted to take a minute to personally thank you for the review and for allowing parts of my life to touch yours.

You are very correct in saying that I grew, over the years of my quest. The perfect vision of hindsight reinforces what previous generations have said ... "it's not the goal that is important, it's the journey."  I have been privileged to have some of the next generation of Leatherfolk understand and share in my journey. Thank you for being one of them.

Viola

PS The problem with reading the journal of another person is that much of the day to day entries don't make sense unless you were a part of the story. If you would like to hear the rest of the "Tiger Story" Let me know. <G>

 

 

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