Leather and BDSM Pride Flags

  The Leather Pride Flag was designed by Tony DeBlase and was first displayed at the 1989 Mr. Leather Contest in Chicago. It was quickly adopted as a symbol for practitioners of SM, leather fetishists, and by extension any proud aficionado of BDSM or related practices.

DeBlase intends for each of us to interpret the shapes and colors of the Flag as we wish. Here is one interpretation: According to Stacey, Ms. National Leather Association International 1996, the red heart stands for the love we feel, and the white stripe is for purity (she did not explain what she meant by purity, but my interpretation is that it is the purity we attain when we express that love in an open, honest and consensual way). Black is for leather, and blue is for denim, two materials commonly worn (and eroticized) in our community.


  The BDSM Pride Flag is a symbol for the BDSM community which is a marriage between the "Leather Pride Flag" by artist Tony DeBlase and the "BDSM Symbol" by Quagmyr. This flag encompasses those who are into BDSM, leather, Levi's, sado-masochism, bondage and domination, uniform, cowboys, rubber, and other fetishes. The rainbow heart shows the bond between the gay and straight bdsm community. The logo at the heart's core, has a wide range of meanings, and it's placement, on the flag, is significant of the unity between all sexualities.

The three divisions represent the varying threesomes of BDSM. First of all, the three divisions of BDSM itself: B&D, D&S, and S&M. Next, the BDSM creed of behavior: Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Third, the divisions of our community: Tops, Bottoms, and Switches.


The BDSM Symbol 



   The BDSM Emblem has no "obvious" symbolism because it was created to be enigmatic. To the vanilla observer who would be put off by BDSM, it is merely an attractive piece of jewelry. Thus, we can wear it freely as a friendly salute, nod, and wink to other BDSMers we should happen to pass on the sidewalks and in the hallways of our daily lives.

To the insider, however, the Emblem is full of meaning.

The three divisions represent the various threesomes of BDSM. First of all, the three divisions of BDSM itself: B&D, D&S, and S&M. Secondly, the three-way creed of BDSM behavior: Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Thirdly, the three divisions of our community: Tops, Bottoms, and Switches.

It is this third symbolism that gives meaning to the holes in each unit. Since BDSM is at the very least a play style and at its greatest a love style, the holes represent the incompleteness of any individual within the BDSM context. However "together" and "whole" individuals may be, there remains a void within them that can only be filled by a complimentary other. BDSM cannot be done alone.

The resemblance to a three-way variation on the Yin-Yang symbol is not accidental. As the curved outline of Yin and Yang represent the hazy border between where one ends and the other begins, so do the curved borders here represent the indistinct divisions between B&D, D&S, and S&M.

The metal and metallic color of the medallion represents the chains or irons of BDSM servitude/ownership. The three inner fields are black, representing a celebration of the controlled dark side of  BDSM sexuality.

The curved lines themselves can be seen as a stylized depiction of a lash as it swings, or even an arm in motion to deliver an erotic spanking. The all-embracing circle, of course, represents the overlying unity of it all and the oneness of a community that protects its own.

Copyright 1995, 1997, Quagmyr@aol.com

The BDSM Emblem is copyright 1995 by Quagmyr@aol.com who maintains the copyright in order to protect the symbol. It is freely available for all educational and non-commercial use within the BDSM community without charge. The explanatory text is copyright 1995, 1997 by Quagmyr@aol.com  and used here by permission.

For more information about the BDSM symbol, please visit Quagmyr's BDSM Symbol page at:



The Hankie Code

Hankie Codes originated in the Gay Community, but are sometimes used by BDSMers as well.  The different colors indicate preferred activities, while the placement of the hankie(s) in the right or left pocket signifies a Dominant/Top (left pocket placement) or a submissive/bottom (right pocket)

*Note:  The above pocket placements are for the US only - European flaggers (those who use the hankie code) use the opposite pockets to signify Dominant/Top and submissive/bottom. Be aware when traveling across the pond!

Worn on Left COLOR Worn on Right
Heavy SM top BLACK heavy SM bottom
Bondage top GREY fit to be tied!
Wants head LT BLUE cocksucker
69er ROBIN'S EGG BLUE anything but 69ing
Cop MEDIUM BLUE cop sucker
Fucker NAVY BLUE fuckee
Pilot / flight attendant AIR FORCE BLUE likes flyboys
Sailor LT BLUE / WHITE STRIPE lookin' for salty seamen
Cock & ball torturer TEAL BLUE cock & ball torturee
fFst fucker RED fist fuckee
Cuts MAROON bleeds
2-handed fister DARK RED 2-handed fistee
Dildo fucker LIGHT PINK dildo fuckee
Tit torturer DARK PINK tit torturee
Into navel worshippers MAUVE has a navel fetish
Suck my pits MAGENTA armpit freak
Piercer PURPLE piercee
Likes drag queens LAVENDER drag queen
Pisser / water sports YELLOW piss freak
Spits PALE YELLOW drool crazy
Hung 8" or more MUSTARD wants a big one
Two looking for one GOLD one looking for two
Anything anytime ORANGE nothing now (cruising)
Two tons o' fun APRICOT chubby chaser
Suck my toes CORAL shrimper
A cowboy RUST his horse
Spanker FUSCHIA spankee
Hustler (for rent) KELLY GREEN john (looking to buy)
Daddy HUNTER GREEN orphan boy looking for daddy
Military top OLIVE DRAB military bottom
Dines off tricks (food) LIME GREEN dinner plate
Rimmer BEIGE rimmee
Scat top BROWN scat bottom
Uncut BROWN LACE likes uncut
Cut BROWN SATIN likes cut
Latex fetish top CHARCOAL latex fetish bottom
Actually owns a suit GREY FLANNEL likes men in suits
Beat my meat WHITE I'll do us both
Milker HOLSTEIN milkee
Comes in scumbags CREAM sucks it out
Safe sex top BLACK / WHITE CHECK safe sex bottom
Shaver RED / WHITE STRIPE shavee
Furry bear RED / BLACK STRIPE likes bears
Likes white bottoms WHITE LACE likes white tops
Likes black bottoms BLACK / WHITE STRIPE likes black tops
Likes Latino bottoms BROWN / WHITE STRIPE likes latino tops
Likes Asian bottoms YELLOW / WHITE STRIPE likes asian tops
Enjoys ravishment/'rape' play ORANGE / BLACK STRIPES looking to be ravished or 'raped'
Likes white suckers LT BLUE / WHITE DOTS likes to suck whites
Likes black suckers LT BLUE / BLACK DOTS likes to suck blacks
Likes Latino suckers LT BLUE / BROWN DOTS likes to suck latinos
Likes Asian suckers LT BLUE / YELLOW DOTS likes to suck asians
Park sex top RED / WHITE GINGHAM park sex bottom
Headmaster BROWN CORDUROY student
Wears boxer shorts PAISLEY likes boxer shorts
Bestialist top FUR bestialist bottom
lLkes muscleboy bottoms GOLD LAME likes muscleboy tops
Starfucker SILVER LAME celebrity
Has / takes videos BLACK VELVET will perform for the camera
Voyeur (likes to watch) WHITE VELVET will put on a show
Has tattoos LEOPARD likes tattoos
Smokes cigars TAN likes cigars
Cuddler TEDDY BEAR cuddlee
Chicken KEWPIE DOLL chicken hawk
Wears a dirty jock DIRTY JOCKSTRAP sucks it clean
Tearoom top (pours) DOILY tearoom bottom (drinks)
Outdoor sex top MOSQUITO NETTING outdoor sex bottom
Has drugs ZIPLOC BAG looking for drugs
Bartender COCKTAIL NAPKIN bar groupie
Stinks KLEENEX sniffs
Has a home KEYS IN FRONT has a car
Needs a place to stay KEYS IN BACK looking for a ride
Likes to nibble HOUNDSTOOTH will be bitten
Skinhead top UNION JACK skinhead bottom
New in town CALICO tourists welcome
Bathhouse top TERRYCLOTH bathhouse bottom
Hosting an orgy WHITE/MULTICOLOR DOTS looking for an orgy


Interested in seeing some OTHER Hankie Codes??  Caution!  Humor ahead!  :)

A Guide to the New Gay Hankie Code for Personality Traits    http://www.i-out.com/feature/rants/07.07.hankies.html 

The Christian Hankie Code    http://www.postfun.com/pfp/features/97/august/hankies.html 


  Page Updated 12/12/03


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