All 'Men' Are Created Equally
(Or….Why I Don't Believe in Female Superiority)
By Mistress Ren
I've gotten a number of letters
from male submissives over the years…some of which I kept and continued
correspondence, and others of which I have immediately discarded. I have a
fairly simple criteria for deciding which letters get placed into the 'round
file' (the waste basket):
1) Any letters where a submissive describes - in porn star graphic detail -
everything he wants done to him…right now.....by me or any of my Domme friends
who may be willing should I be busy.
2) Any letters where submissives send pictures of their dick, and little else.
3) Any letters where they beg me to 'assist them in way their wife cannot.'
4) Any letters where men let me know that women are the superior sex, and they
are firm devotees of 'Female Superiority.'
While numbers 1, 2, and 3 usually get me rolling my eyes in exasperation, it's
number 4 that really irritates me. You see, I consider myself an independent,
strong woman willing to fight for what I believe is right, and willing to stand
up for myself when necessary - BUT…I do not feel I am 'superior' in any way to
Nor, do I feel I am inferior. I've lived on this earth quite a long time, and
I'm fortunate enough to say that - as a woman - I've gotten a fair shake in this
so called 'man's world.' I've never lost a job to a man, I've never been denied
a chance at a proving myself in a man's job, and I've more than held my own in
some arenas where men seem to reign - specifically as both an EMT and a
When I ask men who believe in female supremacy what the draw is, they tell me
that women are the most perfect of creatures, both in mind and body, and that
alone makes them deserving of admiration and adoration. They also point out that
women are the givers of life, and thus makes them 'god-like' and worthy of
devotion. They also emphasize that women, by virtue of their sexuality, can
bring a man to his knees and hold immense power over him, and that 'power' (in
their minds) equates to respect.
The women I've spoken to who are involved in Female Superiority are …well…a bit
blunter in their explanations. They feel that men are 'dogs' or 'pigs' who need
a firm hand, as men are incapable of making decisions for themselves, and thus
need a strong woman to 'straighten them out.' They point out that men are the
weaker sex simply because they can be so easily controlled by a woman's body,
and that they lack intelligence because they are willing to do just about
anything in order to be Dominated or get laid.
While I do believe that each of the different sexes has distinct physical and
emotional advantages (as well as disadvantages) over the other, I certainly
don't believe that I hold superiority over a man simply by virtue of my indoor
plumbing or my rack. Nor do I believe that every man ever created is worthless,
lazy, an imbecile, or desperately in need of me to hold his hand while he
breathes. I will admit that I have met my share of men who can be 'controlled'
by a promise of sex or Domination - but I've met just as many woman can be
'controlled' with the promise of an afternoon in Victoria's Secret with an
open-ended credit card.
Given what I've been told by devotees and divas alike, as well as my own
interaction with those who claim to be Superior Females, my personal dislike of
Female Supremacy stems from the expectation that unmitigated respect and
unquestioned obedience are the key component of the adoration. While I feel we
are all deserving of politeness and courtesy, respect must be *earned* and not
expected as a given…..in my opinion, that is perhaps the ultimate in egotism.
Respect - like submission - is a GIFT, and must be earned. The same goes for
In my conversation with a Female Superiority Domme prior to writing this piece,
she asked me what I found rewarding about being just a 'plain old Domme.' I
thought for a moment, then I replied that, for me, the reward came from knowing
that my own submissive chooses to obey me out of earned devotion, mutual
respect, and genuine caring for me as a person, as opposed to doing so out of
I dare say that she looked a bit wistful.
Of course, there are male submissives who find the idea of a strong, demanding,
superior woman to be the ultimate partner, and that is fine…each to their own.
But for those of you who are currently penning letter to drop in my mailbox -
please respect me for my intelligence, empathy towards others, accomplishments,
and my skills - not my estrogen levels or the size of my tits. Otherwise, my
submissive will constantly be busy emptying my wastebasket.
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